Sabotage is saying we want to be someone, do something or have something and then doing everything we can to not accomplish our stated intentions.  We are the ones choosing to act or not and when we are sabotaging we are acting, from “some” undefined intention.

The goal of the workshop is to learn the art of self-negotiation and acceptance when dealing with sabotage.  Often we are unclear of our values and our intentions behind our actions.  We say we want something because we have been told we are supposed to “be” it or “have” it.  We sabotage to avoid being responsive to all of our needs and wants.  Fear is often at the foundation of sabotaging behaviors.  We are afraid of success, failure, change, and the unknown.  Examining sabotage allows one to deal head on with the motives behind actions. 

Participants who successfully complete the training will:

1. Define sabotage and explore sabotaging behaviors
2. Examine what gets sabotaged
3. Examine the perceptions and self-talk resulting from sabotaging behaviors
4. Clarify the intentions behind our actions
5. Learn the art of self-negotiation
6. Explore a strategy for dealing with sabotage and understanding the intentions behind the sabotaging actions

The interactive workshop will explore self-sabotage in a supportive and confidential environment.  When one is sabotaging one is protecting a part of one’s self that does not want to “succeed” or “change”. Students will be introduced to a negotiation process that is intended to meet all needs at different levels.

The workshop will provide:

1. A sabotage worksheet to examine what gets sabotaged and how one sabotages
2. A values clarification worksheet that prioritizes core values
3. A negotiation strategy to clearly define wants and needs
4. A interactive discussion of what one “gets” from sabotaging behaviors and if the benefit is worth not accomplishing a defined, stated intention
5. An examination of one’s ability to act and uphold personal values

The workshop will encourage:

• Open, honest and confidential dialogue
• Successful outcomes for all participants
• Application and a willingness to assess outcomes